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Thelma Domenici
Ask Thanksgiving Host If Mom's Chile Is Welcome
Dear Thelma: The Thanksgiving tradition in my family is to eat red chile on turkey and mashed potatoes. This year my parents and siblings will be celebrating Thanksgiving with my wife's family. Her family has never tried red chile for Thanksgiving. Would it be all right for my mom to bring her red chile to the dinner? (Sunday, November 16, 2008)
Cut Harried Bride A Little Slack on Invite Mistake
Dear Thelma: Recently we received a wedding invitation from my husband's niece. Only my husband's name appeared on the envelope (only one envelope was used). Am I justified in not going to the wedding? My husband says I am invited, but I feel having only his name was inappropriate. (Sunday, November 09, 2008)
Be the Adult When Dealing With Inappropriate Teens
Dear Thelma: The other day I walked by a group of young teenage girls, whom I knew, and thought I heard one of them call me an inappropriate name. I kept on walking but was unsure on how to address this situation. Did I do the right thing or should I have stopped and interrogated them one by one? Should I contact their parents? (Sunday, November 02, 2008)
Be Clear, Polite About Unwanted Political E-Mails
Dear Thelma: During the course of each day I receive several political e-mails, usually bashing my candidate of choice. It seems that my friends and family believe that I am a supporter of the other candidate and send me e-mails accordingly. There are even times when family members, who know my political views, send e-mails counter to them in an attempt to dissuade me. I am really annoyed. What should I do? Ask them not to send me any political e-mails? Tell them that they have assumed incorrectly and that I support the "other guy?" Ignore them? Actually I find myself junking all e-mails sent with a hint of politics, without even reading them. (Sunday, October 26, 2008)
No Need To Feed Every Guest's Whim, But Be Flexible
Dear Thelma: We have changed our eating habits to a very healthy lifestyle, which means no junk food, snacks or carbonated drinks. When having house guests, am I expected to have available food I normally don't use? (Sunday, October 19, 2008)
Teaching kids responsibility starts with respect
Dear Thelma: How do you not spoil your kids so that they have some sense of responsibility while still providing for their wants and needs? (Sunday, October 12, 2008)
Political Discourse Needn't Lack Respect, Civility
Dear Thelma: You know that old saying about "never discuss politics or religion?" Should we stay out of political conversations in the course of good manners? (Sunday, October 05, 2008)
For other picnickers, ill-timed nap was just a slap
Dear Thelma: I recently attended a summer picnic at my daughter's home. All the picnickers were in-laws and family. After five hours of picnicking, I went off under a tree with my lawn chair to close my eyes for a few minutes. I'm 57 and have heart problems. I sometimes just need a rest. My wife announces this to be poor etiquette, awakens me in front of onlookers and declares that we "must go home now!" Is the nap poor etiquette or just a nap? (Sunday, September 21, 2008)
A well-prepared public speaker is a compelling one
Dear Thelma: I attend a lot of events that include guest speakers. Many times I pay the fee to go to certain events because of the particular speaker. However, lately I've been very disappointed with the effort put forth by some of these speakers. I've definitely not gotten what I've paid for. Can you offer some guidelines for these speakers and let them know what's expected of them? (Sunday, September 07, 2008)
Instruct students to use crosswalks for safety
Dear Thelma: School is back in session and the crosswalks are in use. As drivers we are continually made aware of the need to slow down through them by flashing lights, crossing guards with whistles and even police officers ready to issue tickets. I'm for all of that. However, isn't anyone instructing the children and teenagers on how to cross the street carefully and respectfully? They don't pay attention, they run wherever and whenever they please, or they amble across slowly. No one wants kids to get hurt. They should be made aware of rules to keep themselves safe too. (Sunday, August 31, 2008)
Listen to parents, then react without emotion (Sunday, August 24, 2008)
Wedding invitations are not requests for presents (Friday, August 08, 2008)
'Heartsense' is a great back-to-school lesson (Friday, August 01, 2008)
For the personal touch, say it — don't e-mail it (Friday, July 25, 2008)
Don't give up on cell phone etiquette in work settings (Friday, July 18, 2008)
Moviegoer role requires some polite maneuvering (Friday, July 11, 2008)
While at beach, don't be a 98-lb. weakling of manners (Friday, July 04, 2008)
From flags to finger food, have proper 4th etiquette (Friday, June 27, 2008)
Vacation With Friends Needs Thoughtful Plans (Friday, June 20, 2008)
Take Along Courtesy With Camping Gear (Friday, June 13, 2008)
Good Organization Key To Successful Luncheon (Friday, June 06, 2008)
Intern Should Dress Appropriately for Office ( May 30, 2008)
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