Marriage Is Not About Love

Contrary to popular belief, secular society’s interest in marriage is not to acknowledge love; it is to build upon that which nature has ordered by integrating male and female into the nucleus of family for life.

Male and female are complementary opposites. Their marriage creates a whole that is much greater than the sum of individuals, which optimally benefits the individuals, their offspring and society.

Nature ordains male and female to unite and form the nucleus of family (the smallest society); families unite and build communities and communities create larger societies. The health and endurance of each level of society depends on the health and endurance of the levels that precede it, so all have an interest in nurturing healthy enduring male-female unions.

Gay rights advocates believe same-sex couples are equally deserving of the title and rights of marriage. They claim it is unfair that society offers marriage to opposite-sex couples regardless of their intentions or abilities to procreate and denies marriage to same-sex couples even though some raise children.

Male-female couples are naturally procreative. Intentions and abilities can change and society need not inquire about either. By offering marriage to all, society achieves its interest of promoting responsible procreation, letting nature run its course, and respecting the privacy and self-determination rights of individuals.

Same-sex couples are naturally barren. Some use donors, surrogates and laboratories to circumvent their barrenness, but society should never encourage such circumvention.

Creating a child with the intent of denying that child, at any stage in life, the presence of one or both biological parents violates the most fundamental of all human rights and denies some of the most basic of human needs and desires — the right, need and desire to have a mother and father.

Gay rights advocates claim their quest for “Marriage Equality” is similar to quests for racial equality. I disagree.

Attempts to stratify humans by race clearly violate the Constitution’s guarantee of equal protection and the principle that all humans are created equal. Human is human — race is irrelevant.

Those marching under the “Marriage Equality” banner are not seeking social equality for things that are fundamentally equal; they are seeking social equality for things that are fundamentally unequal. Same-sex couples are not the equal of opposite-sex couples in natural form or procreative function.

Social equality is only virtuous when the things being equated are equal. A society that sacrifices reality for facades of equality is destined for anomie.

The reasoning that led the Supreme Court to strike down anti-miscegenation statutes should lead to a rebuke of those seeking to usurp marriage for same-sex couples. As much as race is irrelevant to marriage, sex is relevant. Male is male, female is female, and it takes one of each to form the natural nucleus of family.

In short, marriage fully integrates male and female in to the natural nucleus of family, which optimally benefits the individuals, their offspring, and society.

Same-sex coupling is the antithesis of marriage. It segregates the sexes, creates naturally barren relationships and fosters unnatural family formations.

Love may be sufficient reason for two to become a committed couple, but it is not sufficient for society to grant the two the title and rights of marriage. As far as society is concerned, love is nice but it doesn’t pay the bills.