O’Donnell: How to get your boss to finally see your value

I'm feeling really discouraged. I work hard, hit my deadlines and go above and beyond — but my boss keeps overlooking me for new projects and recognition. I'm starting to wonder if there's anything I can do to shift how he treats me. Is there a way to change this dynamic? — Hannah

J.T.: I hear this concern often, and you're not alone. It's frustrating to feel unseen, especially when you're putting in the effort. The good news is, there are proactive steps you can take to change how your boss perceives you. Let's explore a strategy to help you get the recognition you deserve.

Step 1: Understand the dynamics.

First, it's essential to recognize that bosses are human, with their own pressures and blind spots. Sometimes, they may not realize they're overlooking someone. Other times, they might be unaware of your aspirations or the full extent of your contributions. This isn't necessarily a reflection of your value but rather a communication gap that can be bridged.

Step 2: Initiate a constructive conversation

Approach your boss with a positive and collaborative mindset. Request a one-on-one meeting to discuss your role and contributions. During the conversation, express your commitment to the team's success and your desire to take on more responsibilities. Ask for feedback on how you can grow and contribute more effectively. This shows initiative and opens the door for a two-way dialogue.

Step 3: Demonstrate your value

Consistently showcase your achievements and how they align with the team's goals. Keep a record of your accomplishments and share them during regular check-ins or performance reviews. Offer to take on challenging projects or assist with tasks that alleviate your boss's workload. By proactively contributing and communicating your successes, you reinforce your value to the team.

Step 4: Seek opportunities for visibility

Engage in cross-functional projects or committees that allow you to interact with other departments and leaders. This not only broadens your experience but also increases your visibility within the organization. Networking internally can lead to new opportunities and perspectives on how to enhance your role.

Step 5: Reflect and adapt

Regularly assess your progress and the effectiveness of your strategies. Seek feedback from peers and mentors to gain insights into areas for improvement. Be open to adjusting your approach based on the feedback and the evolving dynamics within your team.

If you don't feel after all these steps you are getting what you want, you can confidently start to look for a new job that will be a better fit, knowing you did all you could.