OPINION: When the holidays feel heavy, connection matters most

For many families, the holiday season is filled with tradition and joy. But for others, this time of year brings stress, uncertainty or painful memories. Both can be true, and acknowledging this reality is one of the kindest things we can offer each other.

As the executive director of Family Services at All Faiths, I have had the privilege of walking beside families across New Mexico during some of their hardest moments. In our nearly 70 years of serving this community, one truth has remained constant: Emotional wellness doesn’t take a holiday break. In many homes, this season can magnify the pressures parents and caregivers are already carrying.

Some families are navigating behavioral health challenges with their children. Others are balancing financial strain, grief or the simple exhaustion that comes with trying to keep everything together. Caregivers often shoulder these responsibilities silently, hoping to create a sense of normalcy for the people they love. But behind that effort, many are feeling overwhelmed, isolated or unsure where to turn.

We also know that here in New Mexico, the holidays are a time when many families experience increased stress, isolation or emotional strain.

The most powerful gift we can offer one another this season isn’t something that can be wrapped — it’s connection. A moment of genuine listening. A neighbor checking in. A friend asking how we’re really doing. Small acts of care can ease the weight someone is carrying, even when we don’t know the full story.

At All Faiths, our work is built on these moments of connection. Families come to us looking for tools, guidance and reassurance, and our team walks with them through every step. We help parents understand their child’s needs. We support caregivers as they work through the process of accessing care. We provide culturally responsive care, bilingual support and a compassionate environment for anyone seeking help.

And above all, we remind families that struggling doesn’t mean failing.

While the holidays can heighten stress, they also highlight the strength of our community. Every year, I see examples of people supporting one another with incredible generosity and empathy — neighbors sharing meals, families leaning on extended relatives, and community partners stepping up to bridge gaps in resources and care.

As we celebrate this season, I invite all to notice the families who may be moving through it a little differently. Offer patience to the parent whose child is having a hard day. Extend a kind word to someone who seems withdrawn. Reach out to a loved one who may be struggling behind the scenes. And just as importantly, allow yourself grace if this season feels heavy.

If you or someone you know needs support, All Faiths is here. For seven decades, we have been committed to walking with families through moments of crisis, healing, and growth. We are grateful to this community for trusting us with that responsibility.

This holiday season, may we share connection freely, care for one another deeply, and carry forward a renewed commitment to lifting up New Mexico’s families—today and in the year ahead.

Brenna Dotson, a licensed clinical social worker, is the executive director of family services at All Faiths.